Maybe I'm just right

It's my husband's turn to mourn our "what could have been" ideas today but in our discussion today he had a good insight. We always wonder why WE ended up with kids who need loving non-sarcastic patient compassionate parents (none of which fit us). I yet again said why couldn't they get someone like _____ [insert that compassionate patient mom you know] who would feel normal doing this?  He said maybe she couldn't handle it BECAUSE she is those things.  Maybe she couldn't handle the rejection like we can. Maybe it takes a parent whose heart is just hard enough to withstand it. 

Interesting. 

 So while I usually think they needed a softer mom, maybe they really need me, because I'm not a softie and I'll stick it out!  Maybe Definitely I'm not the perfect mom that will be all they need to heal quickly, but maybe I am the perfect mom to stick it out and try mostly in vain but never give up so they can heal slowly. 

Chaos to Healing

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Chaos to Healing is a 99 minute Therapeutic Parenting 101 DVD by Christine Moers and Billy Kaplan. Watch it, then watch it again. You are welcome.

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Check out what Dan Hughes said. Yep, *that* Dan Hughes!

They do not give us magical techniques or parenting cookbooks. They direct our minds to the basics: an attitude of playfulness, acceptance, curiosity, and empathy (PACE) along with the value of developing a home that provides these children with safety, supervision, structure, and support. They offer no quick fix: Christine speaks of the need to interact with your child, again, and again, and again. . . However, they leave us with hope and renewed energy to provide these children with what they desperately need.
- Dan Hughes, Ph.D., Quittie Glen Center for Mental Health

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