Interesting.
So while I usually think they needed a softer mom, maybe they really need me, because I'm not a softie and I'll stick it out! Monday, April 30, 2012
Maybe I'm just right
It's my husband's turn to mourn our "what could have been" ideas today but in our discussion today he had a good insight. We always wonder why WE ended up with kids who need loving non-sarcastic patient compassionate parents (none of which fit us). I yet again said why couldn't they get someone like _____ [insert that compassionate patient mom you know] who would feel normal doing this? He said maybe she couldn't handle it BECAUSE she is those things. Maybe she couldn't handle the rejection like we can. Maybe it takes a parent whose heart is just hard enough to withstand it.
Maybe Definitely I'm not the perfect mom that will be all they need to heal quickly, but maybe I am the perfect mom to stick it out and try mostly in vain but never give up so they can heal slowly.
There were two other couples waiting for our decision on Alex at the orphanage before we even got there. One, was a very soft-spoken couple from France. I've thought, geez, he'd get treatment through National Health but also that he would have eaten their lunch. The other couple was from Georgia, he is a pediatrician and they let their six year old daughter choose their son, a six year old playmate. Their marriage didn't last a year post adoption. So, yeah, I guess they end up with who they're meant to be with.
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