First of all, I think these parents are 100% correct and actually love what they're doing and admit this post is motivated completely by jealousy on my part...
With that out of the way, does anyone else get annoyed with normal people who do attachment parenting? Don't get me wrong, I love that they do, just not that they call it that. I want to scream that's simply parenting! That's how it should be! (Granted, it is quite different than much of today's normal parenting but they're already attached!)
I get that they're using great principles and increasing attachment (and aware of doing so) and doing it to a new level even and that they rock, but if you have attachment, it's sooooo different than trying to get attachment. If there's no RAD, trauma, or the many, many other issues that make trying to get attachment so um, insane, well, that's just good parenting! That's easy! (As easy as parenting is, which it isn't, but it's not trauma parenting!) But that's what so many of us would like to go back in time and get, to attach from the beginning and not have to fight so hard for it.
Is that horrible? That's okay, it's my blog. But does anyone else get annoyed with it? Does anyone else want to say dump your baby out of that sling, give him to someone else to abuse for a few years, THEN see if you can do it? I know, that IS horrible.
And see, total jealousy on my part, I know. I guess selfishly I'm saying I do what you do, but mine is way, way harder. Wahh, what a baby. :)
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
I get to go to Orlando!!!
Oh my word! I get to go to Orlando next weekend!!! I'm still in shock! I saw Christine post on Twitter about coming to Orlando and just asked about her schedule, because we're currently near Orlando and I hoped to say hi. THEN I realized that she's coming for THE Orlando getaway that I had already written off last year thinking we wouldn't still be in Florida in March. Well, thanks to my procrastination of an event that I pushed back to later in March, I'm IN Florida, near Orlando, available, AND Christine had an opening in her house! (There are many houses this year!)
So, all of a sudden, I get to have a RADical weekend with many other RADical moms! How exciting is that?
Who else is going?? More info on Orlando here!
And here is my roommate! http://ramblingsofatraumamamma.blogspot.com/
And THAT Lisa from Life in the Grateful House?! And Ali from Crawford Life & Times?! And a new RVing family I'd heard about?!
I'm seriously freaking out here!
So, all of a sudden, I get to have a RADical weekend with many other RADical moms! How exciting is that?
Who else is going?? More info on Orlando here!
And here is my roommate! http://ramblingsofatraumamamma.blogspot.com/
And THAT Lisa from Life in the Grateful House?! And Ali from Crawford Life & Times?! And a new RVing family I'd heard about?!
I'm seriously freaking out here!
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Orlando
Monday, February 14, 2011
Poor neocortex
Ever start reading a book & it says this function (that your child
needs) happens in the neocortex and you think "aw crap, well count
mine out?!" Then you remember that's WHY you're reading the book &
just wonder if it's worth your time? Me either. Cause that would stink.
Sometimes I think brain transplant is really the best answer. Not a
good one, granted, just the best one...
needs) happens in the neocortex and you think "aw crap, well count
mine out?!" Then you remember that's WHY you're reading the book &
just wonder if it's worth your time? Me either. Cause that would stink.
Sometimes I think brain transplant is really the best answer. Not a
good one, granted, just the best one...
Sunday, February 6, 2011
Hmmm
Ever have one of those days (weeks... months... years...) where you
feel like saying screw the attaching, I just want obedience? Ever
sometimes think maybe heartless robots aren't so bad? Like yeah I may
not have a relationship with them later, but at least they'd behave
now? Or yeah they obey out of fear but at least they obey?
Yeah, I've totally never felt that way, ever. Really. Just thought
maybe some of you other trauma mamas have. *sigh*
feel like saying screw the attaching, I just want obedience? Ever
sometimes think maybe heartless robots aren't so bad? Like yeah I may
not have a relationship with them later, but at least they'd behave
now? Or yeah they obey out of fear but at least they obey?
Yeah, I've totally never felt that way, ever. Really. Just thought
maybe some of you other trauma mamas have. *sigh*